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Seamlessly Navigating Projection in your Day to Day Life
Stand as you, stand fearless and aware. Remain grounded and let assumptions about you flow off you like water off a duck's back.
Sounds great... but...
How do we navigate the projection or presumption of 'victim' when addressing abuse and world issues?
One thing I've noticed is that in addressing and identifying these aspects of shadow in this reality - someone may project a victim archetype onto me and in this respond to me in a form of empathy that is flavored with their set idea of me as a victim - which they don't first tell me about - and sometimes aren't even aware they are doing it.
One reason they might do this is because this is how they would feel if they were speaking about the same thing as I am - that if they were putting the light of awareness on similar things - to them - they would be doing it from a place of 'victim' and helplessness.
In communicating, you get a feeling from them that their response is not exactly honest but it is kind - so unsure of this energy - you go ahead and participate with conversation hoping to come to an understanding and resolution. You may come to a resolution but it still doesn't feel right - it feels like nothing changed and that the conversation didn't really go anywhere and you try to tell yourself that they it did... but feel empty or misunderstood from the discussion.
By participating in communication with this person you may confirm their projection of you as a victim and any further discussion cements you in that space - you react to their projection and they to you as it - it becomes a back and forth of confirmation of assumption - and not being grounded or having some psychic self-defense - your character might be swayed.
You end up feeling - not heard - and yet, they were kind - you're not sure exactly... And to those that are quite sensitive to energy might then experience days of feeling bad about the conversation... but can't quite figure it out.. and don't quite feel themselves every time they communicate with the person... hmmm...
Let's first identify - This is not authentic communication.
It is important to understand assumptions that are had about you when people approach you. Especially if you're like me - a mimic of everything around you - a rental holder in this body - an expression of all that is, in this big wide world.
This means being sensitive to any deviation from authenticity while in communication that you feel and then kindly addressing it in a non-confrontational way if you feel strongly enough about it.
Sometimes that feeling in your gut - is telling you that these assumptions are there and yet by participating in conversation you agree to those terms of communication - become the victim - whereas you weren't when you started and in your place of power know you are not. You may well have had a tendency to be that in the past.
And so, let's build some psychic self-defense around the subject!
It's actually quite a forceful thing that we as humans can do automatically - this assumption thing - because if the assumption is strong enough - we can truly believe it and don't see ourselves outside of it - believing it to be actual reality. Then in a situation of trust - that assumption is transferred as a projection onto the person that trusts us.
You can feel it - but aren't quite able to pinpoint where or why you feel this way - where you are made to feel powerless whereas before you were expressing your power and standing in and as who you truly are.
So in this sense - it is important - first to listen to the gut - and also to address assumptions as you feel them so that they cannot cloud future conversation and clarity can be maintained for effective commication. In this, you can remain who you are and represent yourself the way you wish to represent yourself to others. Navigate these presumption and assumptions effectively.
When I address world issues and abuse as such (including the abuse of social media in the attempts to control the narrative using many subtle forms of censorship) - I do not do it from a 'woe is me, I am a victim state' perspective. I certainly did do this years ago - inadvertently promoting this mindset - but now, no... I've moved on. It's been such a journey. Let me tell you! Years of living on the streets of Australia and the world all to come back around the point of trusting my own gut and intuition - having purified my tools of perception with hard experience.
There is no way I could maintain my own mental stability about these things without maintaining my power within and as myself.
I am empowered. I give myself permission to be so. In this, I sometimes point directly at the abuse and say - HEY! Look! Here it is! Stop it! You have the power to stop it! So STOP IT!
Sometimes the projection of 'victim' can also be a covert way to remove the validity of what someone says saying this person is irrational and everything that they have said is a reaction - therefore it must be taken with a pinch of salt.
It could then be tempting to react in anger to finding out they see you as a victim - thus making your message powerless and pointless. Emotion clouds reason (this one isn't up for debate). So empathy must be had with the assumer to lower them down from their altar of 'knowledge' in a kindly fashion.
Because let's face it, the aim here is not to be right - It is to translate your empowerment into their empowerment.
We're not competing here.
And of course I must add that you are your own responsibility - which goes without saying. And what you take on, is your deal. And what I take on - is my deal. And if I stand in my power of who and what I am - I stand as something much bigger than all of this in a place that is free from polarity motivated pursuits and free from hierarchical tensions - one and equal to Source.
Stand with me and let's hold this system accountable. Addressing concerns and abuse does not need to come from a place of defense or victimhood - it can come from a place of rational deduction which leads to true accountability and empowered decision making = REAL change.
Seeing reality as it is - instead of through the filter of how we need to see it in order to make ourselves feel safe and comfy.
It is also worth mentioning that much of modern news media makes this assumption of 'victim' about the listener in the way it is presented - it manipulatively assumes the listener is a victim of the thing it is presenting and in this by continuing to listen and engaging in it, the listener then allows this assumption and integrates it. Then desiring a resolution keeps listening to "the strong arm of the law, taking control. Where would you be without us?"
This projected and assumed 'victim' must be maintained in order to keep the invisible cage of fear over your awareness which limits your potential to higher thought and true rational deduction.
Remove fear and live life without being a victim - facing troubles head on without fear - anyone can do it in any moment. It is a lower vibration to sit in the dishonesty of not facing your fear and shadow than it is to be honest about something and stand within your power - holding this world accountable.
In correctly perceiving an assumption in conversation and then addressing it - you disarm its effects.
This leads on to having more effective conversation with that person. You actually get somewhere without conversing on this layer of perception you never consented to which invalidates all that you say.
When you are aware there are assumptions about you that you cannot disarm. It is important to communicate with the awareness of that in mind - so you are not yourself lowered to the vibration of that projection being put on you which puts you in the prison the person has put you in - consciously or unconsciously (more times the latter as they themselves exist in that prison and like a fish in water doesn't know what water is).
Remaining grounded in yourself - as authenticity - as true vulnerability - as Source - is of course the strongest psychic self-defense anyone can have. So if you are unsure - make sure you are grounded! If you need to excuse yourself - don't be afraid of being rude - shamelessly give yourself the kindness to take the time to come back to it if and when you know for sure where and who you are in the conversation - if of course you want to at all.
One thing I've learned to do in the past few years of madness is to disarm my mind from fear and concern at will in order to retain a quality of life as I wish to - when I wish.
We all have this capacity and it is a kindness to allow ourselves this. By doing so, we give ourselves the mental rest and stability required to regenerate and keep going - or just to be in a simple state of being.
Be kind to yourself.
ps. Start a discussion - let's put our intuitive compass towards truth and compassion and detaching ourselves from the desire for a particular outcome - engage in an inquiry of the mind.n inquiry of the mind.